Questions for me from MuddyUm
I got tagged. Alan Asnen, you are tagged back.
__1.__What is your idea of perfect happiness?
A: Getting out of the shower, laying my towel down on the bed, picking up a book from my nightstand and laying on that towel to read and not stop until I am one hundred percent dry. All while drinking dark, strong coffee.
__2.__What is your greatest fear?
A: I was paralyzed for years with the fear that I would one day become homeless. I tried fictionalizing my no-home-phobia in a story, but even that was too much. It wasn’t until I got a verbal promise from my mom that I would never, ever live in a box that I could move on.
__3.__What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?
A: I freeze when I’m around rude, thoughtless people. Unfortunately, my silence is often taken as acceptance or worse, agreement. Blech.
__4.__What is the trait you most deplore in others?
A: I can’t handle people mired in their own egos. They tend to redirect all conversations back to themselves yet can’t bear to listen to anyone else talk about their lives. Pass.
__5.__Which living person do you most admire?
A: This is going to feel like an attention grab, but I greatly admire Shaunta Grimes here on Medium. She is so bold, she’s mastered self-marketing, she’s tackling the toughest parts of writing all while raising her children. Kudos, Shaunta.
__6.__What is your greatest extravagance?
A: I love to buy a huge jar of almond butter at Costco and imagine all the gluten-free, high-protein brownies I’m going to bake while knowing I’ll just devour the whole shebang one spoonful at a time.
__7.__What is your current state of mind?
A: Highly stressed. My partner and I are trying to plan our wedding while dwelling in a deep pit of poverty. The worst part about being poor is there never seems to be a way out. Education hasn’t helped, job changes have blown up in our faces, it’s endless.
__8.__What do you consider the most overrated virtue?
A: I’ve always overrated the importance of someone being funny. It took several decades for me to figure out that a person who needs constant laughter isn’t necessarily a healthy, happy person. It wasn’t until I found myself only saying bizarre, funny things as opposed to an actual conversation that I realized non-stop humor can be a way of keeping others at a distance.
__9.__On what occasion do you lie?
A: I cannot lie. That’s not a brag, it’s a confession. I SUCK at twisting the truth, bald-faced lies, little white lies, all of it. This has been a massive hindrance in life. People do not like honesty!
__10.__What do you most dislike about your appearance?
A: I hate to say this but it’s true; I don’t like my weight. A few years ago I was in amazing shape. I had tons of motivation to work out, I had an active job and I roller-skated four days a week. My life has changed a lot and I’ve stored all those evolutions around my waist. I’m working on portion control and self-care, but it turns out slimming down happens at a snail’s pace.
Thanks to Alan Asnen for tagging me in his quicky questionnaire. This was fun!
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